A woman who credits her husband for giving her a dream life says her world was shattered by a five-word text message she found on his phone.

The woman who met her husband when she was just 18 says she "secretly got married at 20" and painted him out to be the ideal man as he helped her achieve her dream of becoming a dancer. "I was always grateful to him and I always will be", she explained.

Now her dream life has come crashing down after finding a text on her husband's phone from another woman, reports the Mirror. When confronted the man started to beg for "forgiveness" and was "crying."

But the woman said she didn't know whether to divorce him over the infidelity, and she asked "can trust be recovered?"

Taking to Reddit for advice, she wrote: "I met my husband when we were 18, we hit it off instantly, we started dating as friends and about two months later he officially asked me out. Like stupid teenagers, we secretly got married at 20 and moved in together (our families thought he was my boyfriend, not my husband). We were both at the same university at night and in the mornings we had a job.

"My dream since I was very little was always to be a dancer but my parents couldn't afford to pay for an academy, they are too expensive and my parents also think that these types of hobbies are a great waste of time and that it is better to study and then get a good job, then get a house and then get married. They wanted to reflect what they couldn't have in me and my brothers."

The woman's husband told her he "going to help" and he paid for her dance classes. The couple made lots of sacrifices but he supported her through it all, even getting a job with extra hours because the "pay was a little better."

She explained: "He helped me fulfill my dream, he never complained about the lack of money, he never blamed me, he supported me to get ahead and I achieved it.

"I achieved it thanks to my husband, I was always grateful to him and I always will be. Now we are in a much better situation than before, we have our house and we plan to have children soon, perhaps when we are 35 to be able to save a little more and cover the necessary expenses that a child requires."

All was going well until she opened a can of worms she never expected. She continued: "Since we have each other's passwords, I grabbed his cell phone because he had the photos from my niece's last birthday. I saw and he had his cell phone in 'airplane mode' when I took it off a few minutes passed and several messages began to fall, the contact had a man's name but the messages were a little strange (they could be read in the notification bar).

"The messages (not exactly): 'Honey, are you home yet?', 'Write to me when you can.' I checked the number and it was one of my friends. I had deleted his conversation with her, so I took a screenshot of the last messages she sent. I told him that same night and he started asking for forgiveness and crying. We both cried. He hurt me so much. He confessed that it had been going on for about five months, my friend and he work together so they started getting closer now that she got divorced.

"He said that he is going to cut off all communication with her and if I want, he would change his job. I mentioned divorce and he became hysterical begging me to give him a second chance. I really lost trust in him and a certain part of me wants a divorce. But another part of me really loves him and I'm so grateful to him for supporting me years ago that a certain part of me is holding me back from making a decision.

"In recent days he has been coming home early from work, he brings me flowers and chocolates. He initiates intimacy every night. Should I forgive him and move forward in the marriage? Can that trust be recovered? I have seen that many marriages recover after infidelity and that it can be done with marriage therapy."

Those with advice shared that they thought the marriage could be saved if they worked at it but urged her to "end the friendship" with her friend.

One wrote: "I know he broke your trust, and that's the hardest thing to get back next to maybe a sense of security, I wish you luck in whatever you do, and I suggest to you a family therapist, It's better to see one sooner rather than at the end as a 'well we tried everything' option."

Another advised: "Everyone, if truly contrite and apologetic and displays signs of understanding the level of damage laid on the spouse, deserves a second chance (yes I am sure there are severe exceptions to this rule, this does not appear as one) you need to set the goals that he must accomplish in order for you just to get an inkling of some normalisation. The rest is completely in your court."

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